Therapy for Self-Esteem in Bergen County

Learn to Love and Appreciate Yourself

Are you constantly feeling like you aren’t good enough or that no one likes you? Do you keep hearing a negative inner voice? Is it hard to receive positive feedback from managers, friends, and family members? If you find yourself answering yes to any of the above, you may be experiencing low-self esteem and a lack of self-compassion. Through therapy sessions, I can help you develop a healthy relationship with yourself and realize your self-worth.

What Is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is how you perceive yourself. People with healthy self-esteem have positive opinions of themselves, while those with low self-esteem hear a barrage of negative voices in their heads. They focus on their flaws rather than their strengths and feel inadequate and unloved or unlovable. These negative thoughts can impact emotions and behaviors, impinging on a happy and fulfilled life.

Impacts of Low Self-Esteem

Having lower self-esteem can reduce your quality of life in a myriad of ways:

Relationship Problems

You may tolerate unacceptable behavior from partners, friends, or family because you feel unlovable. Alternatively, your low self-esteem could lead you to lash out at others.

Depression or Anxiety

Over time, constant negative self-talk can lead to sadness, depression or anxiety.

Limitations on Career and Enjoyable Pursuits

Questioning abilities or fearing judgment can result in avoiding any type of challenges or activities that could lead to career development or daily enjoyment, such as social or sporting events.

Perfectionism

Because you see yourself as inferior, you may become an overachiever tying your self-worth to what you can accomplish.

Self-Harming

Having little self-esteem puts you at risk for harmful behaviors like substance abuse, eating disorders, cutting, or suicide.

What Are the Signs of Low Self-Esteem?

How everyone sees themselves is unique, but people with low self-esteem tend to:

  • Self-criticize
  • Have self-doubt
  • Lack assertiveness
  • Obsessively focus on weaknesses and flaws
  • Disregard strengths and successes
  • Constantly need the approval of others
  • Experience irrational feelings of guilt
  • Compare themselves to others
  • Feel unloved and unwanted
  • Fear about making mistakes
  • Be oversensitive to criticism
  • Feel unworthy
  • Not be able to set limits with people
  • Have body image issues
  • Be lonely

How Can Therapy Help?

People with low self-esteem are stuck in a cycle of negative self-talk. Therapy can help you break that cycle. Together we will uncover the root causes of your destructive thoughts and behavior and devise ways to take constructive action. I will help you learn to objectively assess yourself and accept both your strengths and limitations so you can have compassion for yourself and develop a healthy self-esteem. You will learn how to see yourself in a positive way.

I will provide the tools and strategies to allow you to embrace your true self, so you can realize you are worthy of love and attention.